Tuesday, February 21, 2006

You're Still Here? Okay....

First, I just want to thank everyone for their comments on the blog and e-mails. It brings home and friends/family much closer to have that connection with you while we're here.

Photo before words today. Isn't she a doll? Amy and I were talking today about how it just doesn't seem real that after so much waiting, the wait is over. To me, it feels like Katie has always been a part of our family. To Katie, well, lets just say that almost every time she looks at me, she grimaces as if to say "you're still here..." turns her head sharply to the left and thrusts her thumb in her mouth. It's not exactly heartwarming to have your child respond to your face so negatively, but I completely understand where it is coming from. We've just passed the 48 hour mark since we've met, and Katie is slowly coming around. Every baby in our group has their own issues...daddy-focused mommy-shunning love, constipation (oh, the conversations...), sleep, teething or Katie's situation where she's just not sure she wants to keep me. I haven't broken it to her yet that she has no choice; I'll save that for later.

Despite my complaining, I'm not the least bit disappointed in my baby Katie. She is the most beautiful little girl I've ever laid eyes on and it brings tears to my eyes to think that I get to bring her home to daddy soon (not soon enough!). What a wonderful gift she is to our family. Each day and almost each hour we make a little progress, and the experienced mommy in me knows that soon enough she'll be all mine emotionally. This afternoon, Grandma got her first smile. I got a bit of another, as captured in a photo below. At breakfast, I took her in her stroller so that she could see others and she preferred to be turned away from me, watching strangers. By early afternoon, she was tolerating me playing with her face to face. We had a non-screaming diaper change and actually had some real mommy/baby fun. I can't wait!

The highlight of today was getting back the photos from the camera we sent to her orphanage. We got about 15 photos of Katie and a few friends. One even caught her with a giant smile across her face. It is a beautiful smile and I cannot wait to see it for myself! One photo was of her and the nurse that we met who gave Katie to me on Sunday. She was obviously a special part of Katie's life. These photos are truly a gift. A glimpse of the place where Katie spent her first 9 months and 4 days. It tugs at my heart when I think of how I'll explain all of this to her some day, and each piece of the puzzle that I can find will help her understand and feel a connection with her early life in China.

Today was a no-paperwork day, so we did a few tourist things. Katie and I walked to Teng Wang pavilion while mom watched Olympic Ice Skating (almost as important to her as Illini Basketball!), then we enjoyed a simple cup-a-soup and Pringle lunch before I did a little shopping while Katie napped and Mom did bottle cleaning duty. Mom has been such a huge help and Katie adores her! I explored a Chinese bakery and had our guide, Mandy, help me pick out a few traditional items to try. Yum! Mom and I joined a few travel mates at a local, authentic Chinese restaurant for dinner. I could barely peel myself from the table when the time was up. I'll have to post a separate 'food only' area in the next few days because the authentic food has been really great. We came home, gave Katie another bath and both mom and Katie are asleep now. I figure I'll be up early anyway (4am today), so why go to bed too soon??


Mom's first smile from Katie. Precious.

Katie loves to be propped up on mom's bed and just hang out with us.



Katie and mom at the top of Teng Wang pavilion. Our hotel is the center building of the three to the right of the photo.

A dragon statue at the pavilion.

Grounds around the pavilion.


The Teng Wang pavilion. Note that today was a 'beautiful' day in Nanchang, probably 50F and the sun was out somewhere. You can't ever see it, though. I don't think you ever see the sun due to the smog/pollution. Sad.
One of the views from the top of the pavilion. It is hard to see here, but the 'blob' in the center of the photo in the water, just off the coast, is a woman washing clothes. That's what it is like here. While walking in the nice pedestrian mall (no cars) doing window shopping, we saw a toddler stop to go to the bathroom right on the street. Young children wear 'split pants' that are pants with an open crotch basically from ankle to ankle. Even in the cold weather, their tushies are hanging out. It is socially acceptable here for these children to just squat and go to the bathroom almost anywhere in public. And the parents are picking up after them. Sanitation has a different standard over here.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

SHE JUST HAD THE CUTEST SMILE. IT STILL DOSEN'T SEEM REAL, THAT JUST IN A FEW DAYS YOU WILL BE HOME WITH KATIE. HAYLEY AND I ARE SO EXCITED TO FINALLY GET TO MEET HER. WE HAVE BEEN SENDING CARDS AND SOME PACKAGES TO ALEX. HE HAS REALLY ENJOYED IT. GOING TO SEE ALEX AND BRAD TODAY. CAN'T WAIT TO SEE ALL YOU AND HOPE ALL IS WELL. THIS TIME WILL GO BY FAST. LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH. SEE YOU REAL SOON. LOVE YOU!!!

AUNT LYNETTE AND COUSIN HAYLEY

Anonymous said...

She's the cutest, all right. Perhaps she is not use to red-heads? Have you thought of dying your hair black and putting a pink ribbon in it? My sister Jane apparently puts Uma's hair bows in her own 'do for safe-keeping and then forgets they are there. The neighbors love the look! Keep the faith, babe, you'll be home soon! By the way, I have never known Carol not to be of help. Now, Loren, I don't know about :)

Aunt Jean

Anonymous said...

WOW! I love the picture with the pink bow....Katie is sooooooo cute! I, agree with Aunt Jean's comments that maybe it is the color of your hair....how many redheads are in China!?!?!? We all know Katie will "come around" and fall in love with you...probably even before you get back to the US...Was so nice to chat with you yesterday...What a beautiful daughter you have....the wait was definitely worth it! Take care...and hope to talk with you again soon. Love cpc

Anonymous said...

Just sending some love from Central Illinois. The smile is beautiful and there will be many more to come! We printed the first photos off (from Sunday) and took them to the babysitter's to share. Her daughter said, "She looks Chinese," which then led Muriel to a long explanation of how Katie was born in China but is now coming home to her mommy and daddy. It was so great to hear her talk ... and though she doesn't completely understand the story, she is beginning to grasp the importance.

Woody doesn't say much, but he keeps pointing at Katie's photo every time I ask him "Where is the baby?" He's so proud .. he walks over and smiles as he points.

Talk to you soon!

Rebecca & kids (Patrick is in DC, again)

Anonymous said...

Enjoying the news and pictures from China...She is so precious and such a joy...can hardly wait to see her. Can't believe the first week is about over...Time will fly by and you all will soon be come with Daddy and Alex...Little Kaitlyn will soon adjust and before long her new family will be the most important people in her life...You are always in our thoughts and prayers...Take Care and we love you...Grandpa and Grandma Tillock